‘Fake It Til I Make It’ OR…..

Is There Something (Someone) Better?

I just want to address something that I have been caught up in for years, as a Christian. I want to bring freedom to an area that I have so struggled with for at least the last ten years. I have either been taught by either watching other Christians behavior or leaders out rightly telling me that I needed to, “Fake it till I make it.”.  This felt very wrong to me.  Yet, I was explained that I must “call things that are not as though they are”. (Romans 4:17)  I don’t know about you but I certainly would not like to go to a doctor who was trying to fake it until he makes it…..

I have written a few blogs which I now realize led me to my freedom this morning. It may help if you read these first:

Since this was first told to me, “Fake it till you make it”.  I have had a sense that this is wrong….hint, hint…Holy Spirit Helper, trying to help me. It wasn’t until last night, as I sat at my boys basketball game, when something happened to my oldest son that got me very angry and the ref didn’t see it. I was over the top angry. Later that night when all was quit in the house I was talking to God…one of my favorite times from childhood. As I spoke to Him He first reminded me with such love and compassion, “Remember Darlene, if there is an area you are angry about with Me, you are not trusting Me.” Now I have learned over the last year, there is no way in and of myself that I can create that trust. I knew that God wanted to do something for me through these circumstances. I just didn’t know what. He was not expecting me to plead or bend over backwards or try to work this out for myself. He just wanted me to come to Him. He was not mad at me for not trusting Him. He actually understood me. He wanted to heal and help me.

This morning as I woke up and went about my daily morning activities (working out) the Lord began bringing some things to mind for me, connecting things for me. He reminded me I have been so sad lately of lost relationships, lost relationships for my boys and the sadness that comes with other people’s decisions that impact your life. He also reminded me of last night and how angry I had become at a situation that before would not have impacted me like that. There was a connection and He showed me.  I knew I had to be honest with myself, with God and with others. I had already shared with my husband that I was feeling sad the last few days. There was a loss in relationships, chosen by other people to cut us off. This was hurting….again. This should be over and done with but much like when a death occurs in your family there is a process of grief and it takes time and it fluctuates.  What hurts ourselves is when we try to, “Fake it till we make it.”.  In any area of our life when we try to “fake it” we have just gone into striving in our own ability by pretending (pretense=The act of pretending; a false appearance or action intended to deceive) and have denied the work of the Cross and what Christ died to gain.  “Faking it till we make it” imageis simply a lie. It is pretending on our own to be what God intends for us rather than facing/looking at who we are honestly, what is truly in our heart, and knowing we can’t fix it but God can and will. When we truly have the understanding of all that Christ died for we can much more easily look at ourselves honestly. This “faking it till you make it” is exactly what the Pharisees did. The outside of the cup looked pretty good but when you look inside it was dirty.  We end up truly only hurting ourselves with this pretense.  Because we actually start to believe we can change ourselves which is in direct oppossion to the Truth.  You only end up lying to yourself, God and others. Let me explain further…

The scripture used in Romans 4:17 has been taken out of context and made into something it isn’t. Let’s look at it in entirety:

“For the promise that he would be the heir of the world was not to Abraham or to his seed through the law, but through the righteousness of faith. For if those who are of the law are heirs, faith is made void and the promise made of no effect, because the law brings about wrath; for where there is no law there is no transgression. Therefore it is of faith that it might be according to grace, so that the promise might be sure to all the seed, not only to those who are of the law, but also to those who are of the faith of Abraham, who is the father of us all (as it is written, “I have made you a father of many nations”) in the presence of Him whom he believed—God, who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did; who, contrary to hope, in hope believed, so that he became the father of many nations, according to what was spoken, “So shall your descendants be.” And not being weak in faith, he did not consider his own body, already dead (since he was about a hundred years old), and the deadness of Sarah’s womb. He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God, and being fully convinced that what He had promised He was also able to perform. And therefore “it was accounted to him for righteousness.””Romans‬ ‭4:13-22‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

If we are honest and read this scripture in its’ fullness, we see here a description of God and Abraham. God is the One who gives life to the dead and calls those things which do not exist as though they did. Abraham, who is the father of many nations (that is you and I), contrary to hope- believed in hope according to what God had promised or spoke.

Abraham did not waver at this promise was strengthened in faith and gave glory to God for giving him that ability to be strengthened in faith.

Abraham was fully convinced that what God had promised him God was able to perform–this is where Abraham got his righteousness from-his belief that what God promised God was able to perform.

There is such a push in some circles of Chistianity for us, as believers, to call things which do not exist as though they do and I believe this is erroneous teaching as we really do not want to take one scripture that isn’t even used in its fullness and make our whole belief system out of it. Do I believe in miracles, yes. I have seen them and been a part of praying for them. In this scripture Paul was talking specifically about the birth of Isaac; as we see at the end of verse 18 through verse 19 Paul talks about the many descendents and the reality of Abraham and Sarah’s bodies. God is the creator of life and through us He creates life-babies. We need to understand this scripture and not be afraid to tell the truth. Abraham and Sarah both admitted their bodies were dead to the ability to create a child. What they proclaimed was the belief that God was Who He said He was- He strengthened their faith and He had promised to give them a son.  So God had to give life to the dead, calling what does not exist to exist. These are attributes of Who God is and what He does.   We need to start with the fact that God is infinitely wise, Whose ways and thoughts are way above mine. He desires the best for all of us.  I desire, and have proclaimed heaven on earth by closely listening to the Father. But it is His creating that is occurring, not mine. Thankfully only those proclamations that line up with His will, will only occur (He is so good); we only need to look at the Old Testament prophets to see this truth.  God is interested about our insides, our core NOT in behavior modification.  Any of us can modify our behavior for a time but only God can change us from the inside out which brings about lasting change externally.

Once again He has strengthened His daughter’s faith and healed me. Simply put I believe that God is Who He says He is. I simply believe Jesus is Who He said He is. Through me He shall do great wonders, just like with Abraham. The plus side is that I have His Holy Spirit living inside me.

So, this morning I wept for the loss, another layer. The loss in my life, my children’s lives, and my friends’ lives. I grieved with God, He healed me in my grieving. Not “faking it till I make it” but being real…living from the inside out with myself, God and others. Who wants to join me? ❤️

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Author of an upcoming book, “Time to REALLY Live Free” and blogger.

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