There have been a couple questions that I was asked personally about my last blog post. I would like to address them in a larger audience. First though I would like to thank all of the people who private messaged me their similar stories. If you have had a similar story and would like to share it with me I would love to hear it. You can share here without it going public, as all comments go through me first and if you don’t want it made public please say so and I will respect your wishes. Also, you can connect with me via Facebook Messenger. Okay, now onto the questions…the first question is:
When you put the comment on Facebook,that you later took down, why didn’t you preface what you said with “this is what is happening in so many churches, but praise God it’s not the case in my church”?
- I do not play the “shoulda, coulda, woulda game” it is from the pit of hell.
- I do make amends with people when I have personally hurt them, but…
- I have learned I needed to stop apologizing for “words from the Lord” that people did not like for their own reasons.
- What I also learned is to never add or take away from exactly what the Lord told me to say.
- Last but not least, I referenced myself in the statement I posted and I was in that church…that’s probably why God didn’t say to preface that it wasn’t in my church.
The other question that I felt needs to be addressed, maybe it wasn’t a question more a statement, is the anger and outrage for telling my honest side of the story. The statements I have seen have been: how could a Christian come out and say such things, we should all just love, where is the love in this, Christians should stop talking so badly about others, etc. Pretty much I take this as sit down and be quiet. I have been pounded over the head with scripture to just love and be in unity. We need to look at all of scripture and Paul gives us very good advice on how to handle conflict resolution with people-for further understanding you can read Has Sorry Lost Its’ Potency?. I find it interesting, thus far, and it begs to be asked: Where was ALL THE LOVE and where were ALL THE SCRIPTURES when these lies were being said about my family and friends publicly???? Hmmmmmm…I never heard any outrage made about us. As a matter of fact, we were silent for a year waiting for resolution while the character assassination continued. So, I want to leave the Body of Christ with this statement about why a Christian like me would even tell my side of the story. This was written in a comment by Joel Prinz publicly on Facebook to answer this very question:
This isn’t the story of King David, if it was then our “oppressor” would be left for dead by God and killed by the Philistines lol. God doesn’t work like that anymore and I would never wish such things on anyone. His grace now covers all sin, but if you sow deceit and destruction, then naturally it will come back to get you, you will reap it. That’s what this story is about, if you only knew the number of people hurt by them it would put (it) in perspective for you. You shouldn’t be allowed to get away with what they’ve gotten away with, American church culture is backwards, pastors shouldn’t be able to just run around and mess with people’s lives without it being brought to the light. As the biblical steps for conflict resolution go, step 1: Go to the person you have a conflict with, if they don’t listen enter step 2, bring a witness, still they don’t listen? Step 3, bring it before the church. Step 3 is in effect now. That is all. Pastors are not above correction, but the American church acts like they are. All steps have been attempted in that order. *drops mic*
I am not afraid of questions. I stand by what I wrote in my last blog post, Ummmmm….Is That an Elephant in the Room?, as an honest account of what happened to me, my family and friends (remember this is still not even close to all that occurred). If you or anyone you know has had a similar experience or may be in a spiritual abuse situation at the bottom of the same post I just linked are signs that Judy Friederich outlines. She is open to anyone contacting her via Facebook Messenger for help or questions regarding your circumstances. She is a trusted counselor with years of helping people in similar experiences.